On Friday I
had the opportunity to take a road trip with some of my students. We travelled
from Ashland to Cincinnati to view the Pompeii exhibit at a Cincinnati museum. The
trip was 3 hours down and, because of traffic, about 4 hours back. So there was
plenty of time for conversation.
While a
variety of topics were discussed, the topic of homosexuality dominated most of
the time. The students sitting behind me in the van were discussing their scriptural
understanding, the president’s recent announcement, and how they do or would
interact with homosexual Christians. There were a number of anecdotal stories
along the way.
I drove and listened.
I didn’t engage since the voice of a professor tends to be a student led conversation
killer. And I must say that I was very pleased and proud to listen the way they
talked. There was no hint of hate or homophobia. No indication that they were
looking to ostracize gay Christians. There wasn’t even a suggestion that being
gay made it impossible to be a Christian. Rather, they were attempting to have
a serious, theologically informed conversation on the topic. And while I don’t
think they reached any definitive conclusions and they certainly didn’t all
agree, I was pleased to hear them engaging the topic.
As I reflect
on the trip l am both heartened and disappointed. I am heartened because a
group of students preparing for the ministry (ages 20s to 50s) were seriously
engaging the topic of homosexuality and were seeking answers in a way that
rejects much of the way the topic was handled in the past and even today. But I am also disheartened because, at least
from my own experience, many in the church and in seminaries are not talking
about homosexuality and if they are it is quite often talk that is rooted in
fear and misunderstanding. It is still very much an “us versus them.”
I wish that
churches and seminaries would engage in a serious conversation about sexuality.
I am not suggesting that everyone would end up on the same page. But I wish
that an honest conversation was being had rather than dividing us into those
who are for and those who are against. I wish that Christians would look harder
at what the Bible does and doesn’t say about sexuality and ask to what degree
some of those ideas are cultural and time bound and others more lasting. I wish
pastors were doing a better job of educating their people and engaging them in intelligent
conversation that encourages them to love everyone, even those they don’t agree
with our understand. I wish the church would not react out of homophobia.
I am reminded
of what it was like growing up in the church when divorce was still taboo. Preachers
often railed against it in sermons. We were taught that it was wrong, period,
nothing more. But we never were asked to look at all that the Bible has to say
nor did we ask how we should understand it in our modern culture. Those who did
get divorced often found themselves shunned with little support and it was not
unusual for a divorced person to leave a church for another or none at all. We
never really talked about it. All we did was say it was wrong and whispered about
it when it happened. And the result? According to most polls divorce rates are
just as high in the church if not higher than those outside the church. Couples
are getting divorced regularly and while the church may provide support groups
and are more accepting of the divorced person, the divorce is always the
theological elephant in the room because most Christian people are not prepared
to think about it theologically. They can react emotionally, even politically,
but they don’t know how to process it theologically.
I suspect
that we are heading in the same direction with homosexuality. Many are using it
as political wedge and are not even considering that gay Christians are human
beings loved by God. Some even think God hates gays. I so wish that our
churches and seminaries would have an honest conversation on the topic. Again I
don’t presume that everyone will agree. But I would like to see us be able to
talk in a way that fosters love all around instead of hatred and fear. I wish
we would learn to talk.
In the mean
time I am proud of my students for honestly wrestling with this topic and not
being afraid to ask the hard questions. I don’t know where they will land on
the spectrum, but I am glad to see that they are talking and thinking together.
May they inspire a new generation of leaders.
*Note: The
reflections above are mine and based on my experiences. I realize that not every
ones will be the same. Also, please note that I am not taking sides in this
post. I am merely asking for a conversation. I realize that some churches and seminaries are having the conversation, but many are not. They are only reacting.